Navigating the hospital visit
Navigating the hospital visit
It may feel intimidating to visit someone in hospital. But for those living with cancer, the support of family and friends can help lift their spirits.
If you're planning to visit someone in hospital, read on for tips to ensure a smooth visit.
No matter how close the friend or family member, it's important to plan your visit in advance. Hospital stays involve many medical professionals coming in and out of the room, as well as certain times for eating and bathing. Before visiting, you'll want to make sure you pick a time that won't interrupt any medical priorities. To prevent your loved one feeling overwhelmed, you may want to reach out to whoever is helping to oversee their care to determine a good time to visit, ensuring your loved one does not have too many visitors at once. Make sure to confirm on the day of the visit, and check that your loved one is still feeling up to it.
Don't stay too long
During a hospital stay, focusing on getting better is paramount. Supportive visits are definitely a part of that, but remember that a hospital stay can be tiring. It's okay to stop by for a short time – even just 10 or 15 minutes. Use your best judgment and assess your loved one's energy level before deciding to stay longer.
Keep it positive
Doctors and other medical professionals are the best people to keep hospital patients updated on their condition. So leave the medical talk to them – unless your loved one volunteers those details to you. Depending on your loved one’s mood on the day, you can either bring some cheer to their day or just sit quietly with them while they rest. It can be helpful to plan a few things to share in advance – for example, a funny story about your child or the plot of a book you’d brought as a gift. Now is not the time to ask prying questions or complain about anything in your own life. Focus on communicating to your friend or family member that you love them and are thinking about them, even when you're not there. Need some more ideas? Here are some tips on what to say to someone living with cancer.
Bring a gift
It's always nice to bring something when you're visiting someone in hospital. But remember that hospitals often have rules about what you can and can't bring. Check the hospital's website in advance and keep in mind that people living with cancer may have special diets or be sensitive to certain smells. It's best to steer clear of fruits, vegetables or any other non-packaged food, as well as fragrant flowers or lotions. Books, magazines, a small stuffed animal to cheer up the room or a heartfelt card usually go down well. You can also ask ahead of time to see what your loved one might need or want.
Care takes precedence
Your visit is a great way to support your friend or family member, but remember to let their medical care take priority. If you arrive and the door is closed, knock first. If a doctor or other medical professional stops by, step out of the room unless asked to stay. And if you are feeling under the weather the day of your visit, call and reschedule. Making sure your loved one receives the best care and privacy they deserve is the priority.
By planning ahead and following some basic guidelines, you can help lift the spirits of someone living with cancer during a hospital stay. If you have other tips to share, tag @ByYourSide and #ByYourSide on social media.